According to a survey, almost 60% of men dream of having fun with two girls in bed. The media have long since discovered the threesome for themselves. Be it in the film “On the road” where Kristin Steward can have fun with Sam Riley and Garrett Hedlund or in US series like “Girls” or “House of Cards”. But sex in a threesome is really suitable for everyday use or are we just emulating the wild media world? Maybe the threesome or foursome is just a nice sex fantasy that we dream about at night but nothing more.

We live in an extremely exhibitionistic society that has a strong influence on us, also when it comes to sexuality. Above all, people who define themselves through appearances – especially teenagers who are still in the middle of finding out about their sexuality – are very much influenced by the ‘uniform sexuality’ conveyed in the media. And so quite a few teenagers worry about whether they have to master a threesome for their first time – which of course is absolute nonsense.

Threesome: The constellation:

In which constellation do we dream of threesome sex: two men, one woman, or vice versa? The exciting idea of ​​a threesome is present in the subconscious of both men and women, but it differs in terms of the constellation. Women dream of having sex with two men. Men are more likely to imagine a threesome with two women.

In the first case, which is a threesome between two men and a woman, the man watching as a voyeur is aroused by the thought of competing with the other man. The woman, on the other hand, is the absolute queen in bed. She is desired and spoiled by both. The thought of being enough for both men and having to satisfy both of them can also put pressure on them.

Threesome: One man and two women

When having sex in a threesome with two women and a man, the man is naturally thrilled to be spoiled by two women. In addition, most men find it arousing to watch two women having sex. In addition, the man feels great because after all, he is the only one who can please the ladies via penetration. A nice side effect for the women: Both can live out a conscious or unconscious lesbian fantasy in this threesome.

So is a threesome part of more fulfilling sex life?

Everyone has to find out for themselves what they like about sex and what they don’t. There are couples who only have sex in the missionary position their entire lives and are absolutely happy with it. Maybe even more than others who try everything that is offered to them.

You should ask yourself these questions before:

1. Am I doing something good or bad for myself and my relationship?

2. Am I doing it consciously and am I pursuing my interests and those of my partner?

3. Am I doing it for myself or to please my partner?

4. What is my place in the strange number 3, that is 2+1? Am I the one entering into a relationship or am I number 2? And what role should the third person then assume that we bring into our two-person relationship?

5. Can I deal with it later? With my partner, with the third person, or with the couple who let me join in?

6. Am I able to deal with it if it eventually comes out and is told?

What are the risks of threesome sex?

What can go wrong when you get involved in a threesome? Anything is possible and good as long as you know what you are doing and respect yourself and your partner. Anyone who is afraid of loss and is more of the jealous type should be careful. Because if you accept a second woman next to you in bed just to please your partner, you may regret it bitterly.

And the ‘aftermath’ can also be sobering. It is not uncommon for the sad realization that one feels strange in this role and regrets it to follow after the great intoxication. 

Also, the search for new sex practices can escalate and trigger a kind of ‘bulimia’ that can never be satisfied. Always faster, higher, further. Sometimes it’s the so-called ‘normal’ sex that is absolutely fulfilling and right for both of you. You should never chase after a trend.